So I’m up at 3am and writing up this “little” article, I have so much energy right now and I’m wide-awake as an owl, this is probably because of the mocha I had last night, which had a shot of espresso. Usually at this time I’d be sound asleep, curled up, warm in bed but no – I felt the need to do something productive. Just before deciding to write this, I spent about two and a half hours trying to re-write an essay, which is due this Friday. It was probably the fifth time I’ve decided to re-write and reconstruct my essay. Not to mention, I have another 2 essays due on the same date. Urgh. But enough essay talk, it’s about to drive me insane to the point where I have dreams (or should I say nightmares) about writing it… waking up to actually find I did not work on it at all whilst asleep; if that made any sense at all.
Anyway, back to what I intended to write on… I’m finding that ever since being in university, it’s become extremely difficult to catch up with friends. I know I’m not the only one who’s facing this either. Remember back in high school when you had a particular group of friends you would sit with at lunch? Yeah them, do you still hang out with them? All of them? Altogether? – If you said no, then we’re on the same page – if you said yes, then good for you! That’s quite rare – (if you’re still in high school, you’re about to learn something you can’t really change but have to accept..)
As everyone graduates from high school, we gradually follow our own paths to our own future. Some decide to take a year off and travel, some decide to continue studying, whether it’s at tafe or university. Some decide to work full time, part-time or do an apprenticeship of some sort and some decide to simply stay home and accept the fact they’re bums and will most likely rake in the doll when they’re older (okay that’s a little harsh). But in saying that, no matter what we choose to do, many of us are on different paths… unless you’re lucky and have friends doing the exact same thing as you and will have a very similar lifestyle. Everyone all of sudden has different timetables, schedules and doesn’t have time to do this or that, or catch up or hang out. When this person is free the other isn’t etc.
Unfortunately, in some cases, friends’ drift apart and sadly becomes ‘acquaintances’ in the future. They become someone you once knew. We eventually make new friends overtime and if lucky enough, we get to keep some of our old friends, or whoever is still around. We’re all starting to find our own footing and… potential lovers/partners, which also add to the reason why so many of us are all of a sudden under the radar.
But wait up; this article isn’t that all pessimistic… although we should accept the fact we’re not going to have ten friends we’ll be catching up with on a daily/weekly basis for the rest of our lives, we’ll soon learn to realise who our real friends are and who deserves a spot in our future, as cliché as that sounds. We eventually learn that it takes effort to keep a friendship going, it takes two to tango. If it were a one-way road kind of friendship (where only one person puts in all the effort to keep the friendship intact) I can almost guarantee that friendship will fail in a matter of months. So in saying that, think of who really matters to you and make the most of every moment you have with your mates. Being “friends forever” is more easily said than done. “Forever” can also have an expiry date when it comes to friendship (and sometimes relationships!). “Forever” is just a word until you prove it with actions. Being “best friends” and “friends” generally requires effort and that label requires being loyal, trustworthy, being there for one another.. through thick and thin (at least for me it does).
It’s thought provoking huh. Well that’s all I have to say for now, and yes, these kinds of thoughts run through my head when
1. I’ve had caffeine and stay up late
2. When I’m worn out from re-writing my essay
And finally
3. When I can’t seem to find time for my friends and vice versa.
Sincerely, Carina. xx